Some real possibilities…

Those of us who are living with or parenting a hidden disability, lived through trauma or tragedy are maybe, just a little, sticking a toe over into the super-hero category.

I say that because it often feels like we have to don a cape and fly to the rescue over and over again.

An observer might look at our parenting and think we’re enabling or being over-protective or ______________(insert your favourite judgemental descriptor here).

The fact is we need to quit judging because we really don’t know what is going on inside the four walls of any home.

That is why I’ve been writing this series. To give you, the observer, an insider track on what we live with every single day. The worries and fears for our children that we carry around like so much heavy baggage.

Yes, we pray, we hope, we cry and we do our best to trust God with our kids. We read parenting books and we work hard at trying to get the right supports under our child to move toward whatever success looks like for them. However, in the process we have had to let a lot of dreams die and have had to ask a lot of hard questions that don’t necessarily have answers.

As parents of children with hidden disabilities we have to face possibilities that are just sad to think about, things like;

There is a real possibility that my child won’t be able to function in the outside world without extensive support.

There is a real possibility that my child might never understand that they are loved and valued for who they are and not what they can accomplish.

There is a real possibility that my child may never have a ‘normal’ conversation about deep soul issues with me.

There is a real possibility that my child never be able to hold down a regular job.

There is a real possibility that my child may never finish high school.

There is a real possibility that they my child not ever be able to have a lasting relationship with another person.

There is a real possibility that my child might commit a crime, go to jail, end up in a gang or dead.

There is a real possibility that my child will most likely become addicted to something.

There is a real possibility that my child will get kicked out of school.

There is a real possibility that my child’s trigger could be tripped and they have a huge freak-out in public.

There is a real possibility that my child will never have a close friend.

There is a real possibility that my child will not get invited to birthday parties or other social events.

There is a real possibility that my child will ALWAYS have to ask, “What’s in in that? How was it made?”

There is a real possibility that my child will never have children of their own.

There is a real possibility that my child will end up being very promiscuous.

There is a real possibility that my child will never say, “I love you.”

These possibilities are soul-crushing. We carry a heavy weight with us every minute of every day.

Tomorrow I will show you a little of what every day super-heroes do…

**If you are new here you might want to know that this post is part of a series on hidden disabilities. I am going to be continuing this series for all of October as part of the 31 Days Challenge. You can see all of the amazing topics over at The Nester’s! To go back to the beginning of this series click on the Alphabet Soup tab and you can see the indexed list of chapters.

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About Lani

With six kids, a farm, a ministry and dreams poking out in every direction I need plenty of grace to keep all the balls in the air. The sweet thing is that when I drop them, that crazy grace of God is there telling me I'm still okay...and you are, too...welcome to this place of grace.

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