Why I quit make-up for Lent…

I’m not actually a huge make-up wearer. In fact my kids commented on that fact when I said I was giving up make-up for Lent. They noticed this particular feature of their mom, I was touched that they noticed.

However, I know what’s in my heart.

I know why I use make-up when I do.

I wear it when I’m going out of my house, anytime I have to meet people in real life, when I go to work (if I happen to have a job to go to), when I go to church. In other words, when I feel I need to make an impression, when I know people might ‘SEE’ me. When I care about what other people think.

Three different things influenced me to give up on the make-up for Lent:

#1. A Bible study that a small group of us are doing called Made to Crave by Lysa Terkheurst, which is all about being at peace with ourselves, having our identity in Christ and Christ alone. Craving Him rather than food, appearance, or someone else’s approval.

#2. A book called The Emotionally Healthy Woman, formerly called, “I Quit” by Geri Scezzaro. The first chapter outlines why we need to quit worrying about what other people think about us.

#3. A facebook post by a friend of mine outlining her outrage over a beauty magazine’s survey that didn’t allow for women to love themselves, choose to NOT use make-up or other cosmetic products and generally assuming that we’re all flawed and hate ourselves. She went on to describe how she loves her body, every bit of it and I was fascinated. It isn’t every day you hear that.

All of these influences came across my radar as I was contemplating Lent. Lent is a season of giving up so we can give in to the intimacy of knowing Christ more. I am tired of being dissatisfied with me.

God created me in His image and He said that I am good. This body has nurtured six lives, five made it out into this world and are walking around because of this body’s work on their behalf. Why don’t I love it more? It is pretty amazing!

I realized that even though I use make-up very little I use it to hide myself. I want people to see me a certain way. I don’t want them to see that I was crying for a half hour over nothing before I got to church. I don’t want them to see the ravages of many nights of poor sleep. I don’t want them to see the drain of anxiety, depression, and exhaustion. I don’t want anyone to see any of that. So I put the make-up on.

So I put the make-up on.

I want people to perceive me a certain way. Apparently I care what they think and I don’t know why. As I have had to restrain myself from reaching for my mascara I have had to remind myself that I am already loved. I have to remind myself that God sees me and thinks I’m great, He knows why I was crying.

My comfort, value and worth all needs to come from God himself, not my eye shadow skills.

It’s been a harder thing to not reach for that cover-up than I thought it would be. I had no idea how much I try to hide, but I’m painfully finding out as I have to trust him to cover me rather than my foundation.

Can’t say that I’ve reached the point of peace with myself (I gave up the scale, too), but I am hoping that at the end of this 40 day period I will have more to share of this journey to wholeness and contentment in my own skin.

I was made for more…

About Lani

With six kids, a farm, a ministry and dreams poking out in every direction I need plenty of grace to keep all the balls in the air. The sweet thing is that when I drop them, that crazy grace of God is there telling me I'm still okay...and you are, too...welcome to this place of grace.

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8 Responses to Why I quit make-up for Lent…

  1. Donna March 14, 2017 at 9:18 am #

    Lani,, This is the first time I have read your blog. A simple, real, and powerful read for me this morning. Thanks.
    A few things make me want to follow your blog. Words such as ‘grace’, ‘anxiety’, and ‘what other people think’.
    Thank you for the opportunity to follow what you share.

    • Lani March 14, 2017 at 10:03 am #

      Glad to have you here!

    • Katie March 14, 2017 at 1:32 pm #

      Good thoughts Lani – I can resonate for sure (especially when tired!). 🙂 I’d be curious to know how you are connecting the thoughts on giving up make up/loving and being yourself to the Easter narrative and how it has been significant in your journey to the cross this year!

    • Lani September 8, 2017 at 10:35 am #

      I’m so glad Donna, thanks for coming by, I hope you stay!
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  2. Katie March 14, 2017 at 1:29 pm #

    Good thoughts Lani – I can resonate for sure (especially when tired!). 🙂 I’d be curious to know how you are connecting the thoughts on giving up make up/loving and being yourself to the Easter narrative and how it has been significant in your journey to the cross this year!

  3. Jodi March 17, 2017 at 9:01 pm #

    Loved your post Lani Fast Wiens! Great message. Lent is a personal choice to give up things that may be a stumbling block- you aren’t the first friend who God spoke so personally to about giving up makeup- as a dear mentor of mine had a similiar experience- yet you wrote so clearly the message that she too was feeling. You are a gifted writer Lani- May you continue to experience the blessings of obedience during this footloose and fancy makeup free month or so- who knows, it may be a luxury that lasts longer than lent? We do waste a ton of time and money on makeup in our culture- it can be an addiction or it can simply enhance what is already amazing-God’s creative work without feeling our identity is based on outward appearances as God simply looks at our hearts- Its a beautiiful thing to be at peace with our our imperfect skintones (Blotchy perhaps-dry/oily or otherwise…)- the shape of our eyes, lips, face, cheeks, forehead, eyebrows ( bushy or scant) with short, long or albino lashes.. If we only spent half the time we as women spend on decorating our faces on studying the word of God of our true identity and where beauty comes from- we will be less prone to fall for the latest trend- or buy the next colour pallette. I like how the Word refers to turning to the Lord “With unveiled faces” (1 Corinthians 3:18)- so makeup or no makeup, that’s truly what matters in the end. Thanks sister for being so real:)

  4. Jodi March 17, 2017 at 9:02 pm #

    Loved your post Lani! Great message. Lent is a personal choice to give up things that may be a stumbling block- you aren’t the first friend who God spoke so personally to about giving up makeup- as a dear mentor of mine had a similar experience- yet you wrote so clearly the message that she too was feeling. You are a gifted writer Lani- May you continue to experience the blessings of obedience during this footloose and fancy makeup free month or so- who knows, it may be a luxury that lasts longer than lent? We do waste a ton of time and money on makeup in our culture- it can be an addiction or it can simply enhance what is already amazing-God’s creative work without feeling our identity is based on outward appearances as God simply looks at our hearts- Its a beautiiful thing to be at peace with our our imperfect skintones (Blotchy perhaps-dry/oily or otherwise…)- the shape of our eyes, lips, face, cheeks, forehead, eyebrows ( bushy or scant) with short, long or albino lashes.. If we only spent half the time we as women spend on decorating our faces on studying the word of God of our true identity and where beauty comes from- we will be less prone to fall for the latest trend- or buy the next colour palette. I like how the Word refers to turning to the Lord “With unveiled faces” (1 Corinthians 3:18)- so makeup or no makeup, that’s truly what matters in the end. Thanks sister for being so real:)

  5. Jodi Kozan March 17, 2017 at 9:04 pm #

    Loved your post Lani! Great message. Lent is a personal choice to give up things that may be a stumbling block-You are a gifted writer Lani- May you continue to experience the blessings of obedience during this footloose and fancy makeup free month or so- who knows, it may be a luxury that lasts longer than lent? We do waste a ton of time and money on makeup in our culture- it can be an addiction or it can simply enhance what is already amazing-God’s creative work without feeling our identity is based on outward appearances as God simply looks at our hearts- Its a beautiiful thing to be at peace with our our imperfect skintones (Blotchy perhaps-dry/oily or otherwise…)- the shape of our eyes, lips, face, cheeks, forehead, eyebrows ( bushy or scant) with short, long or albino lashes.. If we only spent half the time we as women spend on decorating our faces on studying the word of God of our true identity and where beauty comes from- we will be less prone to fall for the latest trend- or buy the next colour palette. I like how the Word refers to turning to the Lord “With unveiled faces” (1 Corinthians 3:18)- so makeup or no makeup, that’s truly what matters in the end. Thanks sister for being so real:)

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