Life in the Aspie Lane

**If you are new here you might want to know that this post is part of a series on hidden disabilities. I am going to be continuing this series for all of October as part of the 31 Days Challenge. You can see all of the amazing topics over at The Nester’s! To go back to the beginning of this series click on the Alphabet Soup tab and you can see the indexed list of chapters.


The world of an autistic or Aspergers child is narrow and rigid.

Their ability to make friends or communicate is limited so having conversations can be difficult. They tend to miss common social cues and constructs. The following would be a possible situation in which there would be a miscue.

A group of kids is standing in a circle talking, the Aspie kid walks up to the circle and the circle tightens. This goes unnoticed and the Aspie kid inserts themselves into the circle and launches into a monologue about the latest movie or video game they’ve fixated upon. They do not seeing the glares and body language that would have told them that this circle wasn’t one they were welcome in, they did not stop to hear the conversation and participate appropriately.

This child may also fixate on particular, narrow topics that don’t necessarily have relevance to the rest of their life, for example; memorizing baseball stats but not actually having interest in the sport itself.

There may be an inability to sequence and a tendency to be quickly overwhelmed. On the more severe side of the disorder you can expect loud, inappropriate outbursts, random physical movement, possibly in a pattern (twirling), fixation on one small thing – spinning wheels, violence and difficulty with speech.

Theses kids work well with lists and routines. Once they’ve got the ‘rules’ in their heads they will keep them. That can be a plus!

Often anxiety is part of their alphabet soup, possibly ADHD or ADD.

They long for order and sameness, change needs to be approached slowly and carefully. Surprises, crowds and loud noises aren’t usually a good idea.

About Lani

With six kids, a farm, a ministry and dreams poking out in every direction I need plenty of grace to keep all the balls in the air. The sweet thing is that when I drop them, that crazy grace of God is there telling me I'm still okay...and you are, too...welcome to this place of grace.

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